Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need a wedding planner?
Yes, yes you do.
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How much does a wedding cost?
This is tough – the average wedding in America is about $32,000 for everything. I would say in Palm Beach we are seeing anywhere from 50 – 100 thousand for an average wedding. I would say that the main cities around the US would also be around the same for a typical wedding. Of course, if you are in a smaller city or town, you can expect to see lower costs.
How do we determine our budget?
Oh, that dreaded budget question. There are many factors when you are determining a budget. The main ones are the location of your wedding & the number of guests. Truly you want to find a budget you are comfortable with spending. No one wants to go into debt for a wedding and you don’t want to be thinking about the cost of everything as you plan. The best advice I can give is to sit with those who are contributing and determine how much each party is comfortable with, this way ensuring peace of mind as you plan.
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Who do I include on my guest list?
This is a tricky question, why you ask? Well, it honestly comes down to who is contributing. And I can hear you saying already but it is our wedding, shouldn’t we determine who comes and this I say “yes & no”. Yes, it is your wedding but when you have parents contributing, they typically want to include guests of their own. Remember this is a big day for them as well.
The best advice I can give here have the people who you really love and who love you. There will always be some politics but when you work together on the guest list and everyone learns to compromise, then it makes for easier planning.
Do I need to include a +1 or children at my wedding?
The +1 question. Typically we tell clients that if the guest has been with his or her significant other for more than 6 months, then you should invite them. Anything less than that is entirely up to you and you can decide on a case by case basis but there is no obligation. Something to consider here is if that particular guest knows everyone or not. If they don’t really know anyone else at the wedding, you may want to include a +1 for them.
Children at a wedding. This is a personal question and whether you and your fiancee want to have children. Again, it’s a political question as well. Will anyone be offended if you do not include children? If so maybe considering including them but see if the venue has a separate area where you can hire a babysitter & have the kids hang out while their parents are enjoying the evening.
When do we send out our Save the Dates? Our Invitations?
Save the dates: should be sent out 6 months from your wedding date. We do recommend that if you do have international guests, send those out 8 months out. Something to consider, if you want to use an engagement picture, plan to have that shoot done about 2 months from sending the save the dates out.
Invitations: There are different theories here but what I like to suggest is the following:
Order date: 14 weeks before your wedding
Invitations sent: about 9-10 weeks before your wedding
RSVP date: 5-6 weeks before your wedding
Do we need to include a dress code on the invitation?
Typically, we only see a dress code on the invitation if you are requiring black tie or black tie optional. If it’s anything else, you can list this on your wedding website.
Do we need to have an open bar?
So the answer to this is yes, the bar should be hosted by you or a family member. What you include in the open bar can be optional. You know your guests, if they are big wine drinkers, you could consider a beer and wine bar with maybe a specialty cocktail. If you have a guest list that party until the sun rises then maybe consider a full open bar. But never have a guest pay for a drink at your wedding. Big NO NO!
Do I have to do all the normal traditions of a wedding?
Nope – you don’t you honestly do not have to do any of them if you don’t want to. This is an area where you can truly say it’s our wedding. There are no set rules anymore so you are really free to do what you like. Keep in mind though that some of the “traditionists” may want to see you cut that cake, so it may be worth doing some of those traditions to make someone happy.
Do I have to do a first look?
You don’t but the benefit of doing one are that you get all the “formal” photos done before the ceremony so that once you are married, you can get back and enjoy! The other benefit to a first look, depending on the time of year, is that you will be able to get all the shots you like while there is still good light for your photographer.
DO I have to do a rehearsal?
You do not have to do a rehearsal, most people do know the basic set up of a wedding ceremony. The benefit of having one is the ability to run through any questions you or your party may have. It’s also a good time to introduce your planner to your party so they know who to ask for on the day of the wedding.